Post by 013742 on Sept 12, 2024 13:23:11 GMT -8
Hi,
I turned 18 in early august this year and when discussing my future with my dad, some things clicked.
I am currently still in senior year of highschool, but when speaking to my dad about my future regarding college and whatnot I kept bringing up that I want to live with my mother during.
At the time and still now I mostly want to be with my cats. I have three senior cats and my mom is unwilling to feed them most of the time and never cleans their litter box. I am the main person who takes care of their needs.
I don't have a job or a driver's license because my mom told me I don't need a license because she'll drive me and I don't need a job because we'll just live off of social security and EBT. My dad (they separated when I was 8) constantly shamed me for not having either and makes it very known how disappointed he is in me.
I recently began working with a agency who helps people get jobs. I was told my hypothetical job wouldn't effect my EBT/social security because I am going for the job through them. I finally got a job and immediately received two letters in the mail congratulating me for the employment and the swift cut off of my government aid.
my mom went ballistic and began hurling insults and threats towards me for the decision. we had a fight abour 20 minutes ago which finally made me bite the bullet and research emotional incest.
she overshares her traumatic childhood and failed marriage, tells me very personal things about herself (including sex,) and demands to see my body or watch me do things like changing because she "wants to make sure my skin is okay" (I have eczema) sometimes she'll come into the bathroom when I'm in there (our doors don't lock because we live in a 1970s mobile home) even when i tell her not to.
I feel extremely uncomfortable with all of this and in the past year or so began standing up for myself. she now routinely accused me of having BPD or bipolar disorder.
I love my cats and my mom but I feel like I'm going crazy living with her. if I ever tell my dad about this stuff he tells me about the movie psycho which terrifies me. I have autism, ADHD, and OCD and the intrusive thoughts make me panic and cry.
I'm going to bring this all up to my therapist next week and hopefully he'll help me. until then I just wanted to write to this forum.
I hope everyone here can safely recover from their experiences with emotional incest. practice your hobbies and love your friends, animals, and family who actually make you feel safe.
I love you all.
I turned 18 in early august this year and when discussing my future with my dad, some things clicked.
I am currently still in senior year of highschool, but when speaking to my dad about my future regarding college and whatnot I kept bringing up that I want to live with my mother during.
At the time and still now I mostly want to be with my cats. I have three senior cats and my mom is unwilling to feed them most of the time and never cleans their litter box. I am the main person who takes care of their needs.
I don't have a job or a driver's license because my mom told me I don't need a license because she'll drive me and I don't need a job because we'll just live off of social security and EBT. My dad (they separated when I was 8) constantly shamed me for not having either and makes it very known how disappointed he is in me.
I recently began working with a agency who helps people get jobs. I was told my hypothetical job wouldn't effect my EBT/social security because I am going for the job through them. I finally got a job and immediately received two letters in the mail congratulating me for the employment and the swift cut off of my government aid.
my mom went ballistic and began hurling insults and threats towards me for the decision. we had a fight abour 20 minutes ago which finally made me bite the bullet and research emotional incest.
she overshares her traumatic childhood and failed marriage, tells me very personal things about herself (including sex,) and demands to see my body or watch me do things like changing because she "wants to make sure my skin is okay" (I have eczema) sometimes she'll come into the bathroom when I'm in there (our doors don't lock because we live in a 1970s mobile home) even when i tell her not to.
I feel extremely uncomfortable with all of this and in the past year or so began standing up for myself. she now routinely accused me of having BPD or bipolar disorder.
I love my cats and my mom but I feel like I'm going crazy living with her. if I ever tell my dad about this stuff he tells me about the movie psycho which terrifies me. I have autism, ADHD, and OCD and the intrusive thoughts make me panic and cry.
I'm going to bring this all up to my therapist next week and hopefully he'll help me. until then I just wanted to write to this forum.
I hope everyone here can safely recover from their experiences with emotional incest. practice your hobbies and love your friends, animals, and family who actually make you feel safe.
I love you all.