Post by Awakened on May 16, 2017 9:13:12 GMT -8
Hi all...
I am new here. I just completed reading the book (that was recommended to me by an Earth Angel) Silently Seduced, When Parents Make Their Children Partners and so much of it hit home. My mom left my dad when I was 2. I know he is an emotional abuser and I've learned he has struggled (and probably still does) with addictions (I have not spoken to him since I was 18, I'm 37 now). My mom raised me, with me only seeing my dad once in awhile when it was convenient for him. During these visits, he would constantly buy me off vs emotionally building a father/daughter relationship. I never really put two and two together before that my mom was a huge cause for many of my adult "issues". My eyes have been opened to all of the emotional damage she has also done to me. I was her surrogate spouse, and still am to this day (which will soon stop by me learning how to set healthy boundaries). I have started working on my healing journey, but still harbour much anger toward both of my parents for robbing me of a healthy childhood and setting me up for healthy adult relationships. I feel thankful that I can stop the cycle for my own kids, and hopefully give them the childhood they deserve. I am also hoping to get a lot out of this forum. I live in rural Alberta, Canada where support groups are non existent. I have been to several counsellors, none of whom seem to be able to tackle my root issue (which up until this past week I didn't even have a name for!), but am still searching! Hope to connect with those of you who can relate. Much love and light to all of you on your healing journey!
I am new here. I just completed reading the book (that was recommended to me by an Earth Angel) Silently Seduced, When Parents Make Their Children Partners and so much of it hit home. My mom left my dad when I was 2. I know he is an emotional abuser and I've learned he has struggled (and probably still does) with addictions (I have not spoken to him since I was 18, I'm 37 now). My mom raised me, with me only seeing my dad once in awhile when it was convenient for him. During these visits, he would constantly buy me off vs emotionally building a father/daughter relationship. I never really put two and two together before that my mom was a huge cause for many of my adult "issues". My eyes have been opened to all of the emotional damage she has also done to me. I was her surrogate spouse, and still am to this day (which will soon stop by me learning how to set healthy boundaries). I have started working on my healing journey, but still harbour much anger toward both of my parents for robbing me of a healthy childhood and setting me up for healthy adult relationships. I feel thankful that I can stop the cycle for my own kids, and hopefully give them the childhood they deserve. I am also hoping to get a lot out of this forum. I live in rural Alberta, Canada where support groups are non existent. I have been to several counsellors, none of whom seem to be able to tackle my root issue (which up until this past week I didn't even have a name for!), but am still searching! Hope to connect with those of you who can relate. Much love and light to all of you on your healing journey!
