Post by wifetobe on Feb 9, 2004 6:11:41 GMT -8
Hey! I just wanted to let everyone know that our wedding was great. No drama, that I am aware of. MIL apologized to me for all of her behavior; however, she did not acknowledge any of the things she has done to me or my H. So, who knows what she thought she was apologizing for.
H is doing well. She did not call for 2 weeks before the wedding, but has started calling, again. She calls him and brings up all the problems that are going on at her house, such as cars, computers, wedding gifts delivered to their house, etc. Then, she started in on him about his birthday. He is a leap year baby, and his real birthday is coming up, quickly. H told MIL to call me to find out if I had made plans. She has not called. Actually, she has not called me since October. I just realized that last week. She never calls the house, because she only calls his cell phone or calls his work. H told her to stop calling him at work, so she has. Except now, FIL calls H to talk, in the evening or during the day, and then MIL gets on the phone and talks.
Also, he told BIL (21) about all of this. We went out, and took him with us. Even though we had to go 1 hour each direction out of our way, because BIL has a driving phobia. So, we picked him up, and took him to a local bar. We had a really good time, actually. When we got back to our house, H told BIL that their mom is full of sh*t. He told him she had brainwashed all of them about religion, illuminati, politics, people as a whole, etc. Then, I think he went too far, because he told him about his mom trying to kill herself years ago. I told him to wait to talk about that until later. Everyone was drunk. He told BIL to ask MIL about the note she left, and how he had to find it. (not mil, but the note) Anyway, I thought they were going to get into an argument, but they didn't. BIL thought H was trying to turn him against his mom. We went to bed, so they avoided a fight. However, DH and I got in an argument, instead. It was the worst one we have ever had, but he realized he was wrong, later. He apologized to me for it, profusely.
I noticed a trend, and told him about it. He had gone to his mom's for lunch that day. He was there about 3 hours. That is the night we went out. The only time we get into really bad arguments, he has been at his mom's that day, or he has talked to her at length on the phone. He does not really see the connection, but I do. He thinks if they have a good visit, then there would be nothing lingering to be upset about. I told him that all I know is that it happens everytime he goes out there. When I brought up the good time we were having, and then he started in on his brother about their mom, I guess he understooda little. I told him he was obviously mad or upset with his mom, or he would not have talked to his brother about her for almost two hours.
Anyway, enough rambling. Things with hubby and I are great. We had one nasty fight, but I think it was therapuetic, in the end. It opened the door for discussing the connection I saw. Also, Wed night, we had a great talk about his mom. I got to express all of the concerns I have about her. The things that hurt me, and the things she tries to guilt me into.
I hope everyone is well. I have not seen many posts. I hope all of you are okay.
WTB
H is doing well. She did not call for 2 weeks before the wedding, but has started calling, again. She calls him and brings up all the problems that are going on at her house, such as cars, computers, wedding gifts delivered to their house, etc. Then, she started in on him about his birthday. He is a leap year baby, and his real birthday is coming up, quickly. H told MIL to call me to find out if I had made plans. She has not called. Actually, she has not called me since October. I just realized that last week. She never calls the house, because she only calls his cell phone or calls his work. H told her to stop calling him at work, so she has. Except now, FIL calls H to talk, in the evening or during the day, and then MIL gets on the phone and talks.
Also, he told BIL (21) about all of this. We went out, and took him with us. Even though we had to go 1 hour each direction out of our way, because BIL has a driving phobia. So, we picked him up, and took him to a local bar. We had a really good time, actually. When we got back to our house, H told BIL that their mom is full of sh*t. He told him she had brainwashed all of them about religion, illuminati, politics, people as a whole, etc. Then, I think he went too far, because he told him about his mom trying to kill herself years ago. I told him to wait to talk about that until later. Everyone was drunk. He told BIL to ask MIL about the note she left, and how he had to find it. (not mil, but the note) Anyway, I thought they were going to get into an argument, but they didn't. BIL thought H was trying to turn him against his mom. We went to bed, so they avoided a fight. However, DH and I got in an argument, instead. It was the worst one we have ever had, but he realized he was wrong, later. He apologized to me for it, profusely.
I noticed a trend, and told him about it. He had gone to his mom's for lunch that day. He was there about 3 hours. That is the night we went out. The only time we get into really bad arguments, he has been at his mom's that day, or he has talked to her at length on the phone. He does not really see the connection, but I do. He thinks if they have a good visit, then there would be nothing lingering to be upset about. I told him that all I know is that it happens everytime he goes out there. When I brought up the good time we were having, and then he started in on his brother about their mom, I guess he understooda little. I told him he was obviously mad or upset with his mom, or he would not have talked to his brother about her for almost two hours.
Anyway, enough rambling. Things with hubby and I are great. We had one nasty fight, but I think it was therapuetic, in the end. It opened the door for discussing the connection I saw. Also, Wed night, we had a great talk about his mom. I got to express all of the concerns I have about her. The things that hurt me, and the things she tries to guilt me into.
I hope everyone is well. I have not seen many posts. I hope all of you are okay.
WTB