Post by betternow on Mar 8, 2016 23:15:19 GMT -8
Hello,
I've been in and out of therapy and support groups of various kinds for years, and I've finally discovered this place. After reading your website and a few of the posts here, it's amply evident that I was a victim of covert/emotional incest, at the hands of a domineering mother who had inappropriate sexual desires directed toward me.
It would be simplistic and wrong to view myself as a victim, and just as simplistic and wrong to view my mother as some kind of evil monster. It was far more complicated than that -- she was mentally unbalanced, and was unsuited on the whole to be a mother. I also view myself as indeed more of a survivor, and a strong one, than a victim.
I have a lengthy post telling my whole story all typed up and ready to share, as soon as I have access to an appropriate hidden forum. I don't feel comfortable putting it in a place viewable by the public; I'm sure you understand. It's not the most sordid tale that is out there, by any means, but I did go through the wringer when I was a kid, especially in my adolescence.
More than anything, I think that mine is a cautionary tale about the importance of seeking out psychiatric care when people need it. My mother needed it but never got it. I needed it but didn't get it until well into my adulthood. It did me a world of good, although it cost me an enormous amount of time and money. I would urge anyone who is suffering emotional pain and/or confusion to seek out appropriate counseling, rather than suffer needlessly when expert care is available.
Thanks for everyone's time in reading what I've had to share so far.
Better Now ...
I've been in and out of therapy and support groups of various kinds for years, and I've finally discovered this place. After reading your website and a few of the posts here, it's amply evident that I was a victim of covert/emotional incest, at the hands of a domineering mother who had inappropriate sexual desires directed toward me.
It would be simplistic and wrong to view myself as a victim, and just as simplistic and wrong to view my mother as some kind of evil monster. It was far more complicated than that -- she was mentally unbalanced, and was unsuited on the whole to be a mother. I also view myself as indeed more of a survivor, and a strong one, than a victim.
I have a lengthy post telling my whole story all typed up and ready to share, as soon as I have access to an appropriate hidden forum. I don't feel comfortable putting it in a place viewable by the public; I'm sure you understand. It's not the most sordid tale that is out there, by any means, but I did go through the wringer when I was a kid, especially in my adolescence.
More than anything, I think that mine is a cautionary tale about the importance of seeking out psychiatric care when people need it. My mother needed it but never got it. I needed it but didn't get it until well into my adulthood. It did me a world of good, although it cost me an enormous amount of time and money. I would urge anyone who is suffering emotional pain and/or confusion to seek out appropriate counseling, rather than suffer needlessly when expert care is available.
Thanks for everyone's time in reading what I've had to share so far.
Better Now ...
