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Post by nrgiseternal on Aug 19, 2015 6:27:32 GMT -8
Hello all,
Im here because I am way out of my depth. I met the love of my life and mother of my daughter 7 years ago. I always thought her relationship with her mom was unusual. Her mom ripped up her birth certificate to stop her from going on a cruise, she ha a curfew in her 20s, she was always made to feel inferior to her younger sister, basic c.i stuff. I just learned of covert incest and I am sure that is the dynamic at play.
Now to be fully honest, i have my own abandonment issues so when we met I wasnt very trusting of her and had control issues regarding her contact with exes and other men. After many tears and a lot of work I am overcoming those Now my fiance speaks of "not feeling happy,feeling like she lacks identity" and is attributing it to what I didyears ago as opposed to what her mother{who now has dementia and guess whose her caretaker?) has been doing to her since birth..
I love her more than anything in the world. How can I explain to her that her feelings of isolation and lack of identity stem from her mom?
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