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Post by mj on Aug 15, 2014 18:19:22 GMT -8
My mother locked me away from the rest of the world. She hardly ever let me have friends over. She did not encourage me to date girls. I didn't start dating until I was out of the house and moved far away. Even while my parents were going through counseling, my mother tried to get from me what she couldn't get from my father. She flirted with me my whole life, I realize now. She touched me, not on private parts, but in ways that parents shouldn't. She complimented my body. I guess I subconsciously flirted back, because one day, without what I perceived as warning, she yelled, "What do you want? For me to have sex with you?". I said I didn't know. She yelled back, "Well I can't!" and gave me some porn. "I can't" makes it seem like she wanted to. I think part of me wanted to as well since I was her emotional partner - it stands to reason that a partner that works so hardshould be rewarded. I'm not proud of this feeling, but admitting it is part of my healing. Thank you for reading.
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Post by James C T on Aug 16, 2014 15:04:19 GMT -8
Thank you for sharing this with us.
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Post by barnes66 on Jan 16, 2015 11:53:18 GMT -8
I am sorry you are going through this. Your mom was inappropriate and out of line.I had a similar experience experiance with my Dad when I was younger and it still effects me even to this day. Best wishes
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Post by holysnappzors on Jul 14, 2015 22:18:04 GMT -8
You shouldn't feel guilty for wanting to have sex with your mother after all she has down to you. She blurred the lines between mother and son, she taught you that you were expected to be sexual with her. A rape victim that gets aroused or has an orgasm during the assault is no less of a victim. You were a child and her son. You weren't even emotionally mature enough to handle a scary movie, let alone a grown maternal woman coming on to you. You should feel no shame or responsibility regarding this.
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Post by miguel on Jun 20, 2016 21:46:02 GMT -8
I know the feeling. My mom also warned against me having girlfriends and has tried to sabotage most of my relationships. But now that I know what happened and how she behaves, I can stop her. She still tries it, but know I confront her.
Thanks for sharing, when I read your post, it gave me the creeps because I feel similar with my mother.
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Post by zany on Oct 6, 2016 15:15:32 GMT -8
I totally relate! My mother would compliment my looks (and still does) and acted in a sexual manner with me ( nothing "out and out" but alot of kissing on the cheek and sometimes touching or patting my rear end.) This makes me feel very uncomfortable now and ( she still attempts to do it) and I find it very hard to let go of my subconscious desire of it/for it and fear my current relationship with my fiance is being affected ( my therapist tells me it is.) I relate to the concept of the "shadow" parent whom did not fill the needs of my mom and feeling as though I was the center of her world and perhaps of the family. This still makes me uncomfortable. I plan to go to Co-da (Codependants anonymous) meetings and see if I identify and whether it will help. I'm grateful for your post and, again, totally relate, as your story is basically mine.
Thanks,
Zany
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Post by hopeingodtoday on Dec 25, 2023 17:30:33 GMT -8
my mother would always compliment my hips, and tell me i had a nice perfect body and that she made it and was proud, and that i would be a ladies men,, she told me not to brake girls hearts and it let to me fearing breaking girls hearts and i was a virgin till 22 when i semi moved out into the basement.
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